Where did your patterns come from?

I finally got my hands in the dirt today.  I had been gone for nearly two weeks.  When I left the ice was still on Cass Lake and there were snow piles in my yard.  All clear toward summer.  The trip took a lot of energy–babysitting grandkids, starting workshops in Minneapolis, driving . . . driving . . . driving.  Tonight I did a continuation of The Ripple Effect workshop with a group at Many Kites.  I so love exploring this wobbly reality with others.  In some ways our brains and patterns are so structured as to be almost immovable, and in other ways our present reality is as wobbly as the tomato plants I just put in the ground.  Since I am posting so late, I decided to post one of the beginning exercises from my book, See Me Beautiful.  Lets explore that inner reality a bit . . .

Excerpt from See Me Beautiful, chapter 1

How do you determine what beliefs and behaviors have been carefully chosen and which have simply been programmed into your mind and become useless patterns?  How can you tell if you are just following the “rules” or have begun to self-determine the rules.  We all have embedded rules and beliefs about money, God, selfishness, the way people “should” live, how to respond to certain stimuli and on and on.  Start a notebook–make it a cheap little wire-bound thing so nothing seems too important.  Buying expensive journals makes us feel as if we need to say something special.

Now use the prompts below and write in a stream of consciousness manner to uncover hidden beliefs, key experiences, and life patterns.  I’ve started the prompt for you.  And by the way, you don’t have to be a writer to move a pen across a page.  You don’t have to do them all.  Pick one and just write.  Let your unconscious mind direct your pen and wander.  Do them all or pick and choose.

 

1.  What I remember most about the first grade is . . . .

2.  What I most don’t want to remember about first grade is . . .

3.  What I remember most about my parent’s relationship is . . .

4.  What I don’t want to remember about my parent’s relationship is . . .

5.  When I feel backed into a corner I . . . .

6.  To me, happily-ever-after is . . . .

7.  The person I like least in the world is . . . because . . .

8.  The person I like most in the world is . . . because . . .

9.  The quality I most admire in others is . . .

10.  When I get angry, I am supposed to . . .

11.  When I take real time for myself I feel like . . .

12.  The most powerful force in the universe is . . .

13.  The most destructive force in the universe is . . .

15.  When I am alone I like to . . .

16.  When someone asks me to do something I don’t want to do, I feel . . .

 

I think I will take the time to do that exercise again myself.  Our world is constantly evolving and we flow with it.

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