Focused . . . not frazzled


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Yesterday I did a constellation event with some great people in Minneapolis, and I was talking to the group about what they should do if they are fortunate to get a release of old patterns from our work during the day.  I quoted Bert Hellinger who said that, if you are that lucky, you should run and not walk toward what you want.  It made me think of all the time people spend getting well, getting therapy, getting healthy, getting “healed”, getting in shape, and it occurs to me again that these things are not the end goal.  We are just trying to build the kind of core inner and outer strength that makes it possible for us to do great works.  Now ‘great works” can mean a lot of things to a lot of people.  The image that comes to my mind is a whole lot of people building a launching pad and then never getting around to designing the rocket we intend to shoot off.

Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time looking more deeply into the state of education.  Of course the “great works” I would love to accomplish is to remake the way we deliver education that is aligned with how people actually learn.  Just today I spent a fun time with my six grandkids in Chippewa Falls.  We went sledding in near 50-degree weather followed by a lot of pool play in our hotel.  Every one of my grandkids were saying over and over again that they didn’t want to go to school tomorrow.  It’s boring.  Really boring.  Five-year old Adrien told me that he was trying really hard not to get into trouble at school because if you get into trouble they don’t let you do recess or go outside to play.  Ah, the reality of a five-year-old is just too real.   All of these kids have amazing, radiant, growing brains.   When they want to learn something, you just get out of the way and let them do it.  There is something wrong with this picture.

How can so many of us know what is wrong with the system and have so little power to change it?  Arghhhh . . . the pirate in me rebels big time.

Here is the question both for myself and for you this week.  How do we keep from being overwhelmed by the many big things we want to do?  And how do we keep plodding along to make those things come about?  I remember in my early NLP training our trainers talking about how the human brain can only hold only seven plus or minus two bits of information at any one time.  That is not a lot of bits.

I have this idea that those of us who have shared goals and vision must become much better at coming together to make things happen.  Because we are dreamers and visionaries and “flakey” people, we think we don’t have the power to make change happen.  We work too much in our caves and corners–or we work in nonworking systems that talk change and innovation without any real idea of what that means.  It is really beginning to bug me.  There must be a way to make good things happen without being a total capitalist money maniac.

For me, I do best when I chunk things down into bite-sized bits and then do them completely.   I like to work in two hour blocks–more than that and I lose focus and attention (two other important elements of intention and invention).  I may have a very large vision but must admit to my human limitations and do one thing at a time. I also like my little chunks to link together one by one to become chains or clusters that add up to a bigger outcome.  For instance, a book is made up of single sentences, then pages, then chapters, then a whole book.  To think of the whole book is just too much.

Tonight at our hotel (after writing the above stuff) Milt and I watched a segment of “Girls”.  My god, it was so depressing I could hardly get up off the too-hard hotel bed to bring myself back to the computer to finish this post.  As long as our beloved media world continues to create shit like that, we may as well give up on the potential of the human race.  And a part of me does feel a bit hopeless–just so you know, Dana.  But I can’t help but want to keep working in the direction of positive change for us all.

So, you don’t have to “join a group” to add your two cents here.  How do you go about keeping overwhelm from knocking you down?  How do you focus your attention and intention toward small goals that may one day add up to big visions?  It is a real question.


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Focused . . . not frazzled — 2 Comments

  1. Yes, I know, Jamie. I’m absolutely convinced that the human race is a hopeless cause. However, I, like you, feel compelled to push on and do the best I can. After that, I leave the results alone.

    As for overwhelming, I don’t look at a project as overwhelming because no project I know of can be done in a single step. There are at least some logical steps that have to be followed to get where we’re going. Overwhelming for me is too many projects I’ve either accepted or had dumped on me. A day or two to grumble about it reveals the lack of results and makes me choose which one to tackle first based on criteria of time constraints, ease of completion, profit, etc., then I’m off and running. No train moves without that first chug to start momentum.

    • I like the image of a train making that first chug to begin the momentum. Right now I’m working to move several things forward at one time. The train moves very slowly at first. I struggle with tending to move the project that is based on “others” (my work and stuff) and set aside my personal projects. I have this ambitious goal to look at multiple novels to see if they can be woven together. The sheer enormity of this coupled with my lack of confidence (can I do it?) makes it especially hard to stay on the track. I’m sticking with your train metaphor:) Chug on.

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