How to Grow a Human Being

I am sorting and archiving endless files and hard drives. As I do so, occasionally I come across something I like. Here is this topic in a nutshell–from an old newsletter.

X-tra Tips for Growing a Child into an Adult (Yourself included)

Practice Sentences

“Get it yourself.”
“Do it yourself.”
“I know you can do it.”
“Here is how I did it.”
“What are you going to do about that?”

Practical Practices

Be the person you want your children to become.

Make it a point to greet a teen on the street and smile.

When teens question the rules, applaud–and guide if possible.

Refuse to participate in gossip and talk of “the trouble with teens.”

Refuse to watch TV programs that denigrate parents or young people.

Speak well of your Elders to your children.

If you are divorced,

Do not split your child’s soul by speaking poorly of his or her other parent–no matter what he or she has done to you.

Set three challenge goals for yourself and for your child–and then meet them.

Require children to particpate fully in making a home work.

Just say no to buy, buy, buy. We want our children to grow into contributors and not consumers.

Make time available for natural talk. Tell your stories to your children.

Don’t do “chores” do life. Cook, clean & organize together.

Practice being nice–smile more, look at each other, compliment and complement each other

Dance with your children in your living room. They will think you are crazy and they will love you
for it.

Together, Create . . . a Garden . . . a Meal . . . a house project . . . a school project . . . a future

PS. If you are raising teens, do read my book, The Lonely Place, Revisioning Adolescence and the Rite of Passage. It will be good for them and you. Find it on my books page.

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